As usual, Dan Little has posted some thoughtful reflections on the multifarious tributaries that feed into the complex that is social identity. It brings to mind a recent correspondence I had with someone who was adamant that I call them by their “new” name (legally changed by deed poll), someone who I happened to know under their birth name.
My response to her was that legal identity is but one component of, and the shallowest notion of, the complex that is social identity. She will always be known as XXXXXX in the minds of those who knew her in another context and that this is beyond her control. Such is the dynamics of social reality.